Toxic conversations have a way of ruining our moods, our outlooks, and our attitudes. And if you’re alive, you’ll probably encounter them regularly. But it’s absolutely possible to turn them around.
I was delighted the first time I watched this video. You see, there is no mystery really to what we all secretly desire. Yes, we want to be successful. Sure, we want to be healthy. Of course, we want to feel safe in this world. Underneath it all we want to feel happy.
Picture this… You’re the new guy. It’s your first day. Your heart skips a beat as you enter the front door knowing that everything is new. New people. New desk. New job. Sigh. Now go ahead and switch roles.
Have you ever stopped to wonder what exactly makes a great leader? Sure, they can be calm under pressure. Of course they have an unflappable vision of the future. And when they need to, they can make a tough call. But what is it about them that makes others so willing to be led?
How do you feel when people tell you that you’re lucky?
Do you think “Gosh, you’re right! Life has handed me some pretty amazing things!”
or “Yeah, I guess so. But I haven’t won the lottery yet and that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow has been surprisingly elusive!’ or “If by ‘lucky’ you mean ‘really, really hard working and proactive’ then yes! I’m super lucky!”
In today’s video, we talk about how body language affects how others view us, how our own body language affects how we feel, and how we can read someone’s body language and use that information to choose our words.
“Ohhhhh, girl. Did you hear about Laura and Kevin? And what she said to his mom? And what he did after that?”
“YES! I couldn’t believe it. Could NOT. Of all people – I would never have seen that coming!”
Gossip is toxic. You know it, I know it, the person sitting two tables over eavesdropping knows it. It sets negativity in motion and, if we’re not careful, attracts more of the same. Gossip hurts you, it hurts the friend you’re gossiping with, it hurts the people you’re talking about.
“Frank! I loooooved your presentation last week. I mean (hic) I’m not sure I would have opened with that (hic) dorky pun and I don’t really know if that tie was the (hic) best choice but, you know, you do you, Frank. I mean, you’ve got the boss in your pocket so it doesn’t really (hic, hic) matter, amirite? Have you seen the waiter? I’ve been standing here with an empty glass FOR FIVE MINUTES.”
No. Nononono. We’ve all seen this, right? The normally well-manner, sweet co worker who gets nervous at events has a few too many cocktails to calm their nerves. Then, all of a sudden, regrettable things are said, un-take-back-able things happen, and everyone’s avoiding eye contact on Monday morning.
Have you ever had those moments cruising on Facebook when you feel slightly depressed looking at snapshots from vacations in Hawaii, snazzy dinners, or updates about sold-out workshops? Makes you think, “What the heck have I done lately”? The moment your mind takes you to the place where you are comparing yourself to others you have wandered into dangerous territory. This week I am sharing three essential tools to alleviate the despair you feel the moment you compare. Once you kick this mental habit, you will experience far more joy that you can imagine. Take my advice and see for yourself.
Have you ever felt butterflies in your stomach before standing up to give an important toast? How about the dryness in your mouth when you realize you are moments away from delivering a key presentation? Nervous energy is perfectly normal, but we interpret those uncomfortable sensations as being imminent signs of danger. Instead of letting your mind race with all of the doomsday scenarios of how you will fail, I invite you to acknowledge fear for what it is… energy.